When I first came across this video of Brené Brown about “How Many of Us Are Blamers?”, I thought it was humorous. Now, after understanding the message, I find it annoying… because it’s so true!
During Great Lent, Orthodox Christians often pray a prayer attributed to St. Ephrem of Syria:
O Lord and Master of my life,
give me not the spirit of
idle curiosity (meddling),
lust for power
and idle talk.
But grant unto me, Thy servant, a spirit of
Yea, O Lord and King,
grant me to see mine own faults
and not to condemn my brother.
For blessed art Thou unto the ages of ages.
It’s the “lust for power” or the desire to be in control of everything that is the opposite of patience and results in the tendency of “finding blame.” Think about it.